tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4034044339369402776.post1531153368047239860..comments2024-01-03T18:03:56.731-08:00Comments on HINTZ'S HAPPENINGS: REALITY...Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17679265370655421932noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4034044339369402776.post-2356998199562225542011-08-31T10:36:54.853-07:002011-08-31T10:36:54.853-07:00Yes, I feel judged sometimes. I honestly think in ...Yes, I feel judged sometimes. I honestly think in some ways it gets worse the farther from E's Heavenly b-day we get because some feel like life should have moved on by now. Know you are a great example for others, and your honesty is just what many need to hear. God made ALL our emotions, and I don't think it's wrong to feel them. So sorry for your hurt!Ceciliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06295293307771882688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4034044339369402776.post-7902460722232824852011-08-25T20:59:54.657-07:002011-08-25T20:59:54.657-07:00Sara, I feel you. Really. I'm so sorry you fou...Sara, I feel you. Really. I'm so sorry you found out that people have been so cruel and unfair to you. It's not right to judge grief or compare/trivialize losses. It's in everyone's heads, unfortunately. I hate it. <br />Being a pastor's wife - in- training, it scares me to think of what people may say or think about me, but I guess I'm getting used to it after 3.5 years of people judging my grief over Owen. <br />: (<br />I love you, Sara. You are a great encouragement to so many. God uses you and your family mightily.<br /><br />love,<br />ebeEbehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01933568282191797153noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4034044339369402776.post-83110017259911261692011-08-23T16:08:52.490-07:002011-08-23T16:08:52.490-07:00I believe that all loss is the same...it's the...I believe that all loss is the same...it's the recover that is different! Had I lost my then 13 year old daughter, that recovery would have been much different than losign my 2 year old baby. Losing my husband would have been much different than losing my child. BUT...it's still a loss and loss is painful, no matter what the age! The loss of a baby before birth/at birth is a loss of dreams (as are other losses) and then you have to deal with people who don't consider that baby "real" because they never saw that baby or you were never able to bring him/her home. I don't really have any advice for you other than you aren't alone, those types of things just don't bother me as much...on the outside anyway! I am taking some time off of church so that I can focus on my family (my littles and their issues that are surfacing) so I know a little how you feel. I don't need to be judged because I feel led to keep my children home on Sunday and Wednesday nights during this season. I love you, Sara! Hang in there!mom2manyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14721596524827848511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4034044339369402776.post-11761022687067371122011-08-21T14:24:53.303-07:002011-08-21T14:24:53.303-07:00Thank you for always being so real. You're a ...Thank you for always being so real. You're a beautiful person and a wonderful example. I can't completely empathize b/c I have never gone through this type of loss, but I am/have always been amazed by reading your blog and applaud your boldness in being honest. God has done awesome things through you and will continue to. I tell many people about you b/c I think you're incredible. Love in Christ!!Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04751156049541019009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4034044339369402776.post-87851723165677172542011-08-20T20:16:34.763-07:002011-08-20T20:16:34.763-07:00I don't know who it is at church that makes th...I don't know who it is at church that makes these comments or feels that way, but they are not representative of the whole of us. About 6 years ago I lost my dad's side of the family all within 13 months (gramma, grampa, and uncle), and even now there are some days when I miss them so terribly and it takes all I have to keep it together. Grief is something we can't put timelines on or standardize. <br /><br />I for one am so glad to have you and your whole family at our church, and your blog is such an inspiration to so many. Keep doing your thing and we'll keep reading it!TTUGeek84https://www.blogger.com/profile/00500786342601268533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4034044339369402776.post-63118506715557298162011-08-20T19:57:56.480-07:002011-08-20T19:57:56.480-07:00Sara,
I wish I would have known you 3 years ago! Y...Sara,<br />I wish I would have known you 3 years ago! You are an incredibly inspiring woman and mother! All I can say is that I love you! I'd love to hear about Samuel anytime you'd like to talk about him. I'll be praying for you and the family at church.<br />Leslie KingAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4034044339369402776.post-73076573810948574352011-08-20T12:29:01.062-07:002011-08-20T12:29:01.062-07:00Think about how many people your walking this out ...Think about how many people your walking this out on your blog has touched. I think you have been graceful and strong throughout this very painful loss. I am sorry that others don't see it that way. I am also sorry for the family that lost their child this week. So much pain. <br /><br />As far as people speaking negatively of you, I read this blog the other day and it ministered to me greatly. http://www.gradydoctor.com/<br /><br />In case she updates her blog, it is titled Leave it to the Professionals. <br /><br />I have severe social anxiety and I am too often lost in fear of what others think so I don't put myself out there as much as I probably could. I have been toying with joining the PTA of one child's school this year. The thing keeping me from it is the fear of others talking disparagingly about me behind my back. I realize, they are going to and I can live in fear of it or I can know who I am and ignore it. The Word says, "the fear of man is a snare." I am thinking it is time I refuse to be snared. Their opinion isn't what's important. My Abba loves me and that is all I need to know. <br /><br />Hold your head high. You are the daughter of the King and He says you are more valuable than rubies.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4034044339369402776.post-56946869832056385302011-08-19T22:37:57.132-07:002011-08-19T22:37:57.132-07:00People are crazy & insensitive. Four years lat...People are crazy & insensitive. Four years later i am still stunned when people say stupid things. I have all kinds of great come backs in my head until one of those most hurtful comments actually confronts me...and I stand there trying desperately to hold it together. <br />Sometimes I think I should just break down in tears to make that person feel bad too. But other days, the sane & rational ones, I remember what a blessing our Nate continues to be. We prayed for him & God gave him to us for 9 months. God picked me to be Nates mom! Then I feel so grateful & could care less what those other people think or say about me. Our heavenly father knows it still hurts. He knows we still miss him. Father's plan for our family includes a heavenly reunion. He knew our family needed Nate to be our firstborn, and he knows I'll never understand it this side of our reunion. <br />I'm so sorry Sara. I guess all that is to say that I understand how you feel. I'm so grateful God put us in eachothers path. Our boys lives are amazing. Its easier for me to focus on their reality than unkind people.<br />I LOVE YA GIRL! And I'm so thankful for Samuel's amazing little life. He's quite a special little guy!jason.juliedulinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14259700138551770194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4034044339369402776.post-56537750137416120632011-08-19T21:13:18.192-07:002011-08-19T21:13:18.192-07:00Your story has been an encouragement to me in a fe...Your story has been an encouragement to me in a few ways. First, to see how the Lord has carried on His plans for your family, how He has brought new joy and blessing. Second, to see that pain still comes alongside those joys.<br /><br />It has been 1.5 years since we lost Athan. I had a good friend say something similar to how much of a blessing it was that he was gone before we saw him alive. Almost everyday, I stare at his picture on the wall and wonder...what did his eyes look like, what is it like to have a baby (I had an emergency c-section), who was he, would I have loved him more if I could have held him alive? What I would give for 10 minutes with him - a real memory of him. I also continue to hear from many friends how life-changing it is to become a parent, all the things they are learning...without any acknowledgement that we were once standing on that threshold as well. I just let everything go, I guess because it is easier. The deeper hurts, I bring to my husband because it helps so much to hear he still hurts too. <br /><br />We still hurt. We still hope. And your family has been part of that hope for me.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14249804803287173439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4034044339369402776.post-44821841132730875492011-08-19T09:29:05.174-07:002011-08-19T09:29:05.174-07:00Sara,
I'm sorry to hear that your heart has b...Sara,<br /><br />I'm sorry to hear that your heart has been hurting. I can't even imagine what it's like to be a pastor's wife and the unrealistic expectations some people may have of you. Perhaps there's something in your future that God has planned for your family that will encourage happier times;).<br /><br />Luv ya,<br />HeatherHeatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07241765493227321581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4034044339369402776.post-12705518880067918432011-08-19T08:38:21.921-07:002011-08-19T08:38:21.921-07:00This may sound like a cliche, but from what I have...This may sound like a cliche, but from what I have read of your blog so far, you hurt so much because you love so much. Love is who you are, and having a child missing is like missing part of yourself. <br /><br />I am brand new to your blog, but your heart is so beautiful here, and your vulnerability too, since it encourages others in their own pain and processing. <br /><br />with a hug from california, <br /><br />blessedBlessedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09079902364989480862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4034044339369402776.post-29785011073752859412011-08-19T06:35:29.095-07:002011-08-19T06:35:29.095-07:00Oh Sara, tears are rolling down my face while I wr...Oh Sara, tears are rolling down my face while I write this. I am so sorry for all of the people who don't understand what you have been through and that are placing judgment on you. <br /><br />We will celebrate our sweet little Jackson's 2nd Heavenly birthday soon and my heart aches today just like it did two years ago. We love him so much!<br /><br />I am sorry that someone forgot about Samuel.<br /><br />In regards to those who have questioned your blog, please know that it has been a tremendous inspiration for me to be able to see the journey that you have been on and appreciate your openness about Samuel and grief. (I suggests thoes who don't like it or are going to gossip about it- stop reading it! ;))<br /><br />You are a wonderful mother to all your children and that is what matters most!<br /><br />We will keep you in our prayers! Hugs- LisaLisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05625134197340604319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4034044339369402776.post-28584866707665578042011-08-19T05:54:30.278-07:002011-08-19T05:54:30.278-07:00Prayers for you this week and that family who lost...Prayers for you this week and that family who lost their precious daughter/granddaughter. (((Sara)))Z is for Ramblehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03161067436062839486noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4034044339369402776.post-22611349274105589232011-08-19T05:27:12.602-07:002011-08-19T05:27:12.602-07:00So sorry you are hurting today. My heart aches for...So sorry you are hurting today. My heart aches for you. See you soon for a big hug! love maryandchrisAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com